When we hear the word cane for the first time, we may think of an old man using a thick, curved stick to walk. And while you can certainly use something of that nature should you choose…there are so many choices out there! Learning how to use a cane for BDSM impact play is something that can be done very easily.
Canes and rods have been used in discipline and punishment for centuries, so why shouldn’t W/we be using them for fun? I love the idea of reclaiming something that has been used to torture humans and perverting it so that it becomes something positive. I won’t bore you with the gory history of canes and rods, but will instead discuss the many varieties of implements available for rigid impact play and how to do it safely.
Canes: Some have said that “true canes” are only made of bamboo or rattan. Some argue that length is a qualifier. Personally…I just like the word and so I use it for everything that is long, thin and rigid.
Rods: If we subscribe to the above theory that canes are only made of bamboo or rattan, then these are everything else. Acrylic, hardwood, lexan, delrin, aluminum, plastic…and the list goes on!
Switches: These tend to be natural materials that are thin and springy…I was fortunate to find a vendor who made rawhide switches…absolutely lovely!
Whether you’re using a cane, rod or switch, basic safety is the same. Refrain from hitting the bones and joints, stay away from nerve centers and focus on areas that are well padded with muscle and other tissue. These types of toys can have a higher instance of marking in some individuals. Welts and even bleeding are not uncommon, so be sure to negotiate the level of play/damage prior to beginning play.
When using longer canes, you are more apt to get a very nice “whooshing” sound during play. This sound heightens the anticipation (and sometimes dread) of the submissive, especially when they are blindfolded. Depending on the weight of the cane and how fast you swing it, this sound does not necessarily indicate a heavy impact. Rattan canes tend to make this sound with very little effort because they are so lightweight and flexible. Bamboo and heavier or shorter canes may take more effort on your part in order to get the auditory pleasure from this type of play.
If you’re new to caning, start to use your cane by practicing on a pillow. The longer the cane, the more challenging it is to be accurate, so make certain you have enough practice prior to practicing your cane techniques on your human partner. Practice at different impact speeds and with different intensities. Once your cane impact accuracy has improved, then move on to your submissive. The longer the cane, the more important your grip. If you grip too tightly, you will more than likely tire easily and end up causing more pain to yourself than your submissive. Grip lightly with thumb and two fingers, allowing the butt of the cane to move freely against the heel of your palm. By doing this, you will see that the impact is actually greater with less effort on your part.
Start slowly when introducing your submissive to caning. Not everyone reacts well to canes the first time around. Light taps and stings are best for the first session, maybe even warming up with a good spanking or paddling first. If your submissive is resistant to this type of play, a smaller, thicker cane might be a good way to begin, and, as always, when introducing a new type of play, sexual stimulation is a very good idea.
Punishment: Canes are effective punishment tools, even for those who regularly use them for play and enjoy them. Punishment is all about headspace and when a cane is used, it can be swift and severe. Without warm-up or sexual stimulation, these implements can cause a lot of pain in a very short period of time. Keep the strokes even, have your submissive count them aloud, and this will keep them in the right headspace. Just be certain to explain why they are being punished, and remember…when the punishment is over, they are forgiven and it’s time to move on.
Cane Care: As previously mentioned, drawing blood and deep welts are not uncommon with rigid impact. The thinner the implement, the more likely you are to break the skin. If this should occur, finish your scene and administer whatever care is needed to your submissive. Once he/she is all warm and fuzzy, then you can take care of your bloody cane. Spray it down with Cavicide, wrap it tightly in plastic and leave it covered for 22 days to kill all the little bugs.
Soak bamboo and rattan canes in water for 30-60 minutes once a month (in drier regions) or once every couple of months (in more humid regions) to keep maximum flexibility and to allow your canes to last for the longest time.
Wood canes and rods should also receive regular care in the form of oiling the wood once a month or so in drier regions and once every couple of months in more humid regions.
Care for synthetic materials is much simpler, simply spray with Cavicide if it has come into contact with bodily fluids, or for regular cleaning, wipe down with Lysol wipes.
After caring for your toys, allow them to dry before returning them to your toy bag.
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Copyright 2012 Mistress Nerissa
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